@RickiTarr@beige.party Right, I keep hearing about the "male loneliness epidemic" and I said "Well, if you didn't expect us to be fleshlights at your command, be your mom, your maid, your chef, your personal assistant and laundress... Oh, and maybe stop calling us "host bodies", that might be a start, you petulant, entitled, misogynistic little bois.
To add on:
If men are having problems with loneliness, there's an easy solution to this: make friends with other men. There's literally half the population you can make friends with if you want to. It's not like women are the only people they can be friends with.
@MissConstrue@mefi.social @RickiTarr@beige.party
@JessTheUnstill@infosec.exchange @MissConstrue@mefi.social @RickiTarr@beige.party The fragile masculinity of many men means that see making emotional connections with other men as somehow feminine. Ultimately, a lot of men view women as lower in hierarchy (weaker, illogical, less competent, etc) then other men, who they view as competition.
@JessTheUnstill@infosec.exchange @MissConstrue@mefi.social @RickiTarr@beige.party That's very glib and patronising (or maybe matronising). I must add I see how the thread led to it; but we must never dismiss genuine loneliness in anyone: to simply say 'go make friends' is crass. If you're talking about INCEL and the Andrew Tate crap, then you have a point.
@JessTheUnstill@infosec.exchange @MissConstrue@mefi.social @RickiTarr@beige.party but it's not that easy. Men aren't generally good at small-talk which is usually how you make friends.
@JessTheUnstill@infosec.exchange
It is also not that hard to make friends with women.
Almost every occupation, hobby, sport, or pastime will have tons of women who have the same interest and would be happy to talk about, help out, or participate.
Pick the most solitary hobby - writing, and there in the writers group, you will find women happy to chat about writing.
@MissConstrue@mefi.social @RickiTarr@beige.party
Look, I could write a 10,000 character or more piece of discourse about my feelings about "loneliness". But it mainly boils down to:
Loneliness impacts everyone
The root cause is capitalism and patriarchy
It's not women's responsibility to take the lead in solving the problems that were overwhelmingly created by ... You guessed it ... Men.
The most direct way to try and heal loneliness is to make acquaintances and eventually friendships with other people
So yes, making friends is really fucking difficult. But there's no other "cure" for loneliness. And it's not women's collective responsibility to step up and nurture men's feelings. We got enough of our own problems.
@llanciawn@mastodon.social @MissConstrue@mefi.social @RickiTarr@beige.party
And trust us, we can tell if you're only joining to try to pick up chicks. Just don't bother. Join because you actually have an interest in the thing.
@mloxton@med-mastodon.com @MissConstrue@mefi.social @RickiTarr@beige.party
And trust us, we can tell if you're only joining to try to pick up chicks. Just don't bother. Join because you actually have an interest in the thing.
@mloxton@med-mastodon.com @MissConstrue@mefi.social @RickiTarr@beige.party
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