Brutkey

Jasmine running
@jasmine@chaosfem.tw

my ex has asked me if i have any thoughts on how she can talk about our previous relationship without mentioning that i'm trans but also without talking about it like i am a woman, since that wasn't how she saw it at the time

i'm looking for actual ideas

don't tell me to just tell her to go tuck herself. i would if that were an option. it is not.

Jasmine running
@jasmine@chaosfem.tw

she also wants suggestions on how to talk to her friends about hereditary traits and our child without outing me

Jasmine running
@jasmine@chaosfem.tw

my suggestions so far have been
just call me "my ex" without connecting it to me. it was five years ago anyway
talk about heredity in terms of "the other biological parent" or "the sperm donor" instead of connecting it to me. i'm his parent either way

The Witch of Crow Briar
@crowbriarhexe@tech.lgbt

@jasmine@chaosfem.tw I saw this reply out of context and misunderstood it to mean you were referring to your pre-transition self as “my ex” and even though that’s not the case I really like that idea. “We all have That One Ex, am I right, girls? Mine was too insecure to let me dress how I wanted, talk to other people, or even leave the house without him. He’s dead now.”