Brutkey

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try me

me in a knitted sweater dress, looking a bit weary
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try me

me smiling, sitting on the sofa leaning forward towards you. curly brown hair with lots of volume, a yellow top with a big blue and pink flower print
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am i out of touch?

no, it's the brainworms who are wrong

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gods i'm beginning to figure out my sexual orientation and it's so queer it's honestly ridiculous

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defederating is for cowards. do it properly and defenestrate that instance

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my suggestions so far have been
just call me "my ex" without connecting it to me. it was five years ago anyway
talk about heredity in terms of "the other biological parent" or "the sperm donor" instead of connecting it to me. i'm his parent either way

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she also wants suggestions on how to talk to her friends about hereditary traits and our child without outing me

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my ex has asked me if i have any thoughts on how she can talk about our previous relationship without mentioning that i'm trans but also without talking about it like i am a woman, since that wasn't how she saw it at the time

i'm looking for actual ideas

don't tell me to just tell her to go tuck herself. i would if that were an option. it is not.

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transphobia makes people exploitable

like all bigotry, transphobia is a distortion of reality. transphobes misunderstand reality in predictable ways. this makes them exploitable. abusers who aren't themselves biased like that will still use it to exploit people who are. it's a lot harder to do that if you're trans yourself, but it isn't impossible

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i have mood swings, therefore i am