Brutkey

Manda
@lucyruthe@mastodon.social

@FediTips@social.growyourown.services

I don't like feeling like it's a gated community.

It gives me gross.

I completely understand kicking out spambots and bad actors, but I want to be able to look around and explore right away. Not wait and see if I get approved without any idea of how long it might take.

On the internet, even a day is too long and I'll go find something else.

There have been a number of platforms in the past where you couldn't join without an invite. No thanks. Exclusive clubs are not my jam.

Fedi.Tips
@FediTips@social.growyourown.services

@lucyruthe@mastodon.social

Thanks for the feedback
🙏🙏

This is why I'm asking, as most of the time the moderated signups are not meant to be about exclusivity or gated communities or similar. But they have no way to customise the question to make this clear
😔😔

Would it help if the question was customised to make clear that they aren't trying to be exclusive, that they're just wanting to put off spammers etc?

And if they gave a rough idea of how quickly approvals happened?


Manda
@lucyruthe@mastodon.social

@FediTips@social.growyourown.services

Being up front about community standards and what would give someone the boot would make a big difference. Then I could make an educated decision about whether that works for me.

But I'll be honest, just waiting to see if I'm approved by someone else already feels culturally loaded in an awkward way. Reminds me of lots of ways I've had a bad time.

Fedi.Tips
@FediTips@social.growyourown.services

@lucyruthe@mastodon.social

It should be showing you the rules on the website, for example here are the rules on my server:
https://social.growyourown.services/about

You don't need to be a member to see the rules on other servers
🙂🙂