Brutkey

Ms. Que Banh
@PhoenixSerenity@beige.party

I deserve an equally amazing, courageous partner in life. I won't settle for less than what I know is deserved for me.

That's why I don't waste other people's time & won't go on 2nd dates often. I know who I am & I know what kind of partner is compatible with me.

I'm 50 years old now. I don't waste my own irreplaceable time on anyone who isn't really compatible with me.

#GenX #LifeAt50 #Dating

Krista, Darth Møøse Shark
@grrrr_shark@supervolcano.angryshark.eu

@PhoenixSerenity@beige.party THIS

Ms. Que Banh
@PhoenixSerenity@beige.party

@grrrr_shark@supervolcano.angryshark.eu I'm also fed up with ignorant folks who have tried to tell me that because I'm disabled & an older woman, I should be grateful that any man wants to date me at all. That's fucked up & it is super ableist & ageist.

Krista, Darth Møøse Shark
@grrrr_shark@supervolcano.angryshark.eu

@PhoenixSerenity@beige.party THAT is SO. MUCH. FUCKING. BULLSHIT.

Krista, Darth Møøse Shark
@grrrr_shark@supervolcano.angryshark.eu

@PhoenixSerenity@beige.party I'm 53 and autistic and I internalized all of that shit. And am now SO DONE with it.

Absolutely not.

Ms. Que Banh
@PhoenixSerenity@beige.party

@grrrr_shark@supervolcano.angryshark.eu Good on you. I also suffered from years of internalized ableism. I am so done with ableism. I am more understanding & less ruthless with folks who own their ableism & are willing to work at being comrades with disabled folks. I'm not as kind to folks who show me that they're unwilling to challenge, address & destroy their own ableism.

Krista, Darth Møøse Shark
@grrrr_shark@supervolcano.angryshark.eu

@PhoenixSerenity@beige.party Exactly. Sigh.

It's exhausting.

You deserve someone who meets your standards and you have the right to ask for that and accept nothing less.

Krista, Darth Møøse Shark
@grrrr_shark@supervolcano.angryshark.eu

@PhoenixSerenity@beige.party we all have shit to work on. People who don't believe this about themselves and act on it are a harmful waste of time.