What helps me is to remind myself that the human brain is a meat computer wired by a drunken electrician. It fucks up *a lot,* especially where old habits are concerned.
It will get better. It just takes time. 🫂
Estrogen definitely slows down your metabolism; I've gained weight too.
As for meeting queer friendships hard, because I don't know what trying looks like in your case, so I'll probably end up duplicating things that aren't working for you. The one key thing is you've gotta put yourself out there.
@Impossible_PhD@hachyderm.io
For making new friends, I've found my local kink community to be the most inclusive, accepting bunch of perverts* I've ever known.
*A term I use with much love.
I guess, in the end, the answer to both halves of the question is the same: try new things. I've tried to make a habit of saying yes to things, even if I'm not sure about them. Sure, sometimes it sucks, but that's how SGW and my book happened, as well as a lot of friends.
EXTREMELY yes. I absolutely love roller coasters, and have my whole life. I could go off on a whole tangent about my favorite types and favorite specific coasters, and what makes for a superb coaster of any given type.
EXTREMELY yes. I absolutely love roller coasters, and have my whole life. I could go off on a whole tangent about my favorite types and favorite specific coasters, and what makes for a superb coaster of any given type.
I didn't. I did it in the blind hope of being a prof.
The advice I'd give anyone right now who's thinking about getting a PhD is to think carefully, especially if you want to land in academia. The job market is apocalyptic rn--I've heard of 2,000 applications for a single posting this year.
I didn't. I did it in the blind hope of being a prof.
The advice I'd give anyone right now who's thinking about getting a PhD is to think carefully, especially if you want to land in academia. The job market is apocalyptic rn--I've heard of 2,000 applications for a single posting this year.
As a lifelong people pleaser: that's tough. I still struggle with it.
But the most helpful thing I was ever told is that people pleasing is a form of emotional manipulation, because you're not giving others the ability to accept you as you are. That reframe helps me fight back.
As a lifelong people pleaser: that's tough. I still struggle with it.
But the most helpful thing I was ever told is that people pleasing is a form of emotional manipulation, because you're not giving others the ability to accept you as you are. That reframe helps me fight back.
@Impossible_PhD@hachyderm.io
This was a very hard lesson for me, as someone who desperately sought to mold their identity to someone else, never successfully.
I've turned it around by realizing that I provide the most valuable support to the people I love by being honestly and resolutely myself.
Honestly, no. My whole universe has been working on this book, and that's been 100% of what I've been reading for for months. I'm hoping to get back to Perception Check, though.
I've gotta take a call, so there'll be a pause in replies for a bit. Feel free to keep sending questions, and I'll answer in a batch when I'm back!
OK, back for a bit. That ran long!
Its hard to offer tips without knowing what a person wants out of transition, unfortunately. What was right for me might be wrong for you! I'm sorry!
OK, back for a bit. That ran long!
Its hard to offer tips without knowing what a person wants out of transition, unfortunately. What was right for me might be wrong for you! I'm sorry!
@Impossible_PhD@hachyderm.io
This may seem like a simplistic answer, but write down your goals, big and small. If any of them give you a strong desire, focus on how you might progress on those paths.
I'd put my pizza or ceviche up against anyone's! I absolutely love both!
I'm not 100% sure what this question is asking. Are you asking about me? What my thoughts are about its availability? How people do it? Those are all really different things.
If you asked this: could you please re-ask, and be a little more specific, so I can give you a real answer?
B does roller Derby
So
Roller Derby. 😅
Honestly, not really anything else. I've never cared much for the various sportsballs. I enjoy some Olympic events, but just because I love celebrating what the human body can do. I don't care who wins.
B does roller Derby
So
Roller Derby. 😅
Honestly, not really anything else. I've never cared much for the various sportsballs. I enjoy some Olympic events, but just because I love celebrating what the human body can do. I don't care who wins.
Oooooh! Depends on what you personally enjoy and struggle with, but:
Goodbye to Halos (incomplete)
A short history of trans misogyny (THE CONCLUSION 💜
😭
💜)
O Human Star (seeing it hurt someone else, as they overcome it, helps, I think)
Shameless plug of my own writing:
https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/slivers
Oooooh! Depends on what you personally enjoy and struggle with, but:
Goodbye to Halos (incomplete)
A short history of trans misogyny (THE CONCLUSION 💜😭💜)
O Human Star (seeing it hurt someone else, as they overcome it, helps, I think)
Shameless plug of my own writing:
https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/slivers
So here's an angle of me you don't often see: I have an apron belly. I'm not wild about it.
But here's the other thing: *that's super common in cis women, especially mothers*. It's not an AMAB thing.
Empire and midi dresses and skirts do A LOT, as does tummy control undies and garments.
So here's an angle of me you don't often see: I have an apron belly. I'm not wild about it.
But here's the other thing: *that's super common in cis women, especially mothers*. It's not an AMAB thing.
Empire and midi dresses and skirts do A LOT, as does tummy control undies and garments.
I don't--and I don't because the guy that the FFS doctors at Henry Ford Hospitals sends people to is in Grand Rapids. He's just plain better.
Hop in the car and drive on over to Holt Hair Restoration. He did mine, and he's a big ol' hair nerd. Fantastic work!
I don't--and I don't because the guy that the FFS doctors at Henry Ford Hospitals sends people to is in Grand Rapids. He's just plain better.
Hop in the car and drive on over to Holt Hair Restoration. He did mine, and he's a big ol' hair nerd. Fantastic work!
Because of how your selfie camera works! (Also, it's a 15 degree angle)
So here's the thing: your selfie camera is a short-focal-length scanner, not a true camera, and in effect has a fisheye effect on any images it takes. That'll make parts of your body look really weirdly disproportionate in subtle ways that make some parts of your body seem larger or smaller than they really are. Doing a 15 degree angle above your eye level makes that effect hit mostly on your hair, where it's least apparent, and leaves your other body features in more realistic proportion.
Because of how your selfie camera works! (Also, it's a 15 degree angle)
So here's the thing: your selfie camera is a short-focal-length scanner, not a true camera, and in effect has a fisheye effect on any images it takes. That'll make parts of your body look really weirdly disproportionate in subtle ways that make some parts of your body seem larger or smaller than they really are. Doing a 15 degree angle above your eye level makes that effect hit mostly on your hair, where it's least apparent, and leaves your other body features in more realistic proportion.
Doc Impossible