As a lifelong people pleaser: that's tough. I still struggle with it.
But the most helpful thing I was ever told is that people pleasing is a form of emotional manipulation, because you're not giving others the ability to accept you as you are. That reframe helps me fight back.
Honestly, no. My whole universe has been working on this book, and that's been 100% of what I've been reading for for months. I'm hoping to get back to Perception Check, though.
I've gotta take a call, so there'll be a pause in replies for a bit. Feel free to keep sending questions, and I'll answer in a batch when I'm back!
OK, back for a bit. That ran long!
Its hard to offer tips without knowing what a person wants out of transition, unfortunately. What was right for me might be wrong for you! I'm sorry!
@Impossible_PhD@hachyderm.io
This may seem like a simplistic answer, but write down your goals, big and small. If any of them give you a strong desire, focus on how you might progress on those paths.
I'd put my pizza or ceviche up against anyone's! I absolutely love both!
I'm not 100% sure what this question is asking. Are you asking about me? What my thoughts are about its availability? How people do it? Those are all really different things.
If you asked this: could you please re-ask, and be a little more specific, so I can give you a real answer?
I'm not 100% sure what this question is asking. Are you asking about me? What my thoughts are about its availability? How people do it? Those are all really different things.
If you asked this: could you please re-ask, and be a little more specific, so I can give you a real answer?
B does roller Derby
So
Roller Derby. 😅
Honestly, not really anything else. I've never cared much for the various sportsballs. I enjoy some Olympic events, but just because I love celebrating what the human body can do. I don't care who wins.
B does roller Derby
So
Roller Derby. 😅
Honestly, not really anything else. I've never cared much for the various sportsballs. I enjoy some Olympic events, but just because I love celebrating what the human body can do. I don't care who wins.
Oooooh! Depends on what you personally enjoy and struggle with, but:
Goodbye to Halos (incomplete)
A short history of trans misogyny (THE CONCLUSION 💜
😭
💜)
O Human Star (seeing it hurt someone else, as they overcome it, helps, I think)
Shameless plug of my own writing:
https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/slivers
Oooooh! Depends on what you personally enjoy and struggle with, but:
Goodbye to Halos (incomplete)
A short history of trans misogyny (THE CONCLUSION 💜😭💜)
O Human Star (seeing it hurt someone else, as they overcome it, helps, I think)
Shameless plug of my own writing:
https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/slivers
So here's an angle of me you don't often see: I have an apron belly. I'm not wild about it.
But here's the other thing: *that's super common in cis women, especially mothers*. It's not an AMAB thing.
Empire and midi dresses and skirts do A LOT, as does tummy control undies and garments.
So here's an angle of me you don't often see: I have an apron belly. I'm not wild about it.
But here's the other thing: *that's super common in cis women, especially mothers*. It's not an AMAB thing.
Empire and midi dresses and skirts do A LOT, as does tummy control undies and garments.
I don't--and I don't because the guy that the FFS doctors at Henry Ford Hospitals sends people to is in Grand Rapids. He's just plain better.
Hop in the car and drive on over to Holt Hair Restoration. He did mine, and he's a big ol' hair nerd. Fantastic work!
I don't--and I don't because the guy that the FFS doctors at Henry Ford Hospitals sends people to is in Grand Rapids. He's just plain better.
Hop in the car and drive on over to Holt Hair Restoration. He did mine, and he's a big ol' hair nerd. Fantastic work!
Because of how your selfie camera works! (Also, it's a 15 degree angle)
So here's the thing: your selfie camera is a short-focal-length scanner, not a true camera, and in effect has a fisheye effect on any images it takes. That'll make parts of your body look really weirdly disproportionate in subtle ways that make some parts of your body seem larger or smaller than they really are. Doing a 15 degree angle above your eye level makes that effect hit mostly on your hair, where it's least apparent, and leaves your other body features in more realistic proportion.
Because of how your selfie camera works! (Also, it's a 15 degree angle)
So here's the thing: your selfie camera is a short-focal-length scanner, not a true camera, and in effect has a fisheye effect on any images it takes. That'll make parts of your body look really weirdly disproportionate in subtle ways that make some parts of your body seem larger or smaller than they really are. Doing a 15 degree angle above your eye level makes that effect hit mostly on your hair, where it's least apparent, and leaves your other body features in more realistic proportion.
Doc Impossible