Doc Impossible@Impossible_PhD@hachyderm.io
As a lifelong people pleaser: that's tough. I still struggle with it.
But the most helpful thing I was ever told is that people pleasing is a form of emotional manipulation, because you're not giving others the ability to accept you as you are. That reframe helps me fight back.
Violet@violet@lgbtqia.space
@Impossible_PhD@hachyderm.io
This was a very hard lesson for me, as someone who desperately sought to mold their identity to someone else, never successfully.
I've turned it around by realizing that I provide the most valuable support to the people I love by being honestly and resolutely myself.