Girl on the NetI don't hate men, but the guys in my comment section are doing their best to change that.
Give them an inch and they'll take our humanity.
https://www.girlonthenet.com/blog/why-i-get-rejected/#comment-1090072
Quinn Rhodes (he/him)@girlonthenet@mastodon.social I'm generally quite anti the phrase 'men are trash' but fucking yikes.
Girl on the Net@onqueerstreet@mastodon.social yikes indeed. Not all men but definitely - DEFINITELY - that guy.
Quinn Rhodes (he/him)@girlonthenet@mastodon.social I am so angry at men like this– mostly because of their rampant misogyny, the harm they unthinkingly do, and their apparent lack of capacity for self-reflection, but also, selfishly, because they take something that is deeply precious to me (masculinity) and make it synonymous with this fucking shit.
Girl on the Net@onqueerstreet@mastodon.social Ugh YES, I can't imagine how grim it must be to be a dude having to wallow in this soup of shit that arseholes claim is 'masculinity' when in fact it is just insecurity wrapped in a blanket of entitlement. Have you ever written anything about what masculinity means to you? Positive masculinity to aspire to kind of thing?
Quinn Rhodes (he/him)@girlonthenet@mastodon.social I want to clarify that I wasn't tying to make this all about me, more to express that I get where the 'men are trash' sentiment comes from, because we let men like this define what it is to be a man, and that version of masculinity is trash.
I don't know i you'e seen my newsletter, but I write a lot there about masculinity and gender. This post in particular explores the guilt I felt as a feminist for wanting to be a man: https://www.genderbent.co.uk/loving-masculinity-when-men-are-in-crisis/
Girl on the Net@onqueerstreet@mastodon.social OHHH YES! I do remember this piece, it's fab! I wasn't saying you were making it all about you, I was just trying to remember cos I know you're v thoughtful on masculinity etc <3 Thank you for sharing the link!
Quinn Rhodes (he/him)@girlonthenet@mastodon.social Sorry, I totally know you weren't, I'm just still (overly?) cautious about not wanting to centre myself in these conversations if that makes sense?
And thank you, that means a lot! "Thoughtful on masculinity" is 100% what I'm aiming for. Another potentially relevant link is this one, about how I was worried that starting testosterone would make me more violent, but soon realised that the idea that testosterone is why men are violent is bollocks: https://www.genderbent.co.uk/testosterone-made-me-less-violent/
Girl on the Net@onqueerstreet@mastodon.social OH! I missed this one but YES. This is bang on the money I think "I can’t help thinking that men are more violent not because of testosterone, but because we expect and excuse their – our – violence." Thank you for sharing!