Brutkey

ND Dev
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I'm really sorry. I know how that feels. Most #ActuallyAutistic people do.

This sounds like a joke, but it isn't: was anyone mauled by a bear?

https://www.improveyoursocialskills.com/foundations/overcoming-social-anxiety

No? Good.

I'm not saying this encounter wasn't painful and embarrassing, maybe even damaging. Maybe you need to repair a relationship. But perhaps there's fault on both sides. Perhaps the other person could have been more gracious, or allowed you more airtime, or shown a bit more patience.

In my experience, confidence, poise and other social skills come with practice. Keep trying. You'll accumulate some bruises, but you'll get better at it, you'll start to enjoy it more, and the bruises will become less frequent and less severe. And you can comfort yourself with the knowledge that you're not alone: everyone messes up sometimes, and the only people who don't realise it are psychopaths.