Brutkey

ND Dev
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An old family friend once told us: no battle plan survives contact with the enemy. He's right.

It's not your fault. I've never known a scripted conversation to go the way I'd planned it. It's useful to know what you want before starting a conversation, but no one's going to let you monologue, and no allistic person is going to respond the way you expect.

If you need to communicate more than one point, it can be useful to carry a written list that you can unobtrusively check during the conversation to make sure you've not forgotten anything. Writing it down is better than trying to remember it, because memory fails when you're flustered, and we do fluster easily.

Sometimes, email is a useful alternative. You can take as long as you need to compose your thoughts, and there's no ambiguity about what was said. Obviously, it isn't always appropriate:

"Hi, Sally,

"I've been crazy about you for months. Would you like to go out for coffee? Shall we say 1930 Friday?

"RSVP,

"Bill"

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