ClaraBlackInk@clarablackink@writing.exchange
@ljwrites@writeout.ink I think it builds character to do what you've done and I don't think that is said often enough.
Like, there isn't a "right" way for this to happen because it can take a lot of self work to disentangle. But, the people who are doing that are showing that they're growing as people and...well...I think that's a bigger thing that gets ignored for the author's constant attention seeking cruelty.
Author-ized L.J.@ljwrites@writeout.ink
@clarablackink@writing.exchange Yeah it seems like a lot of people are attached to the idea that "I am a good person and therefore what I like can't be harmful, and you are [shoehorn in some bigotry here, frequently misogyny and queermisia in the case of fandom] for not letting me love what I love in peace." Pretty sure there's a lot of overlap between this crowd and the "I am a good person [insert optional reference to Black friend] and can't be racist" one. I've clashed with soooo many people like that in other fandoms, which ultimately drained the enjoyment out of fandoms for me.
