One of the hardest things about being single in my 40s, for me, is that so many of my friends are coupled up or committed to their jobs and general social commitments that when I really need human conversation I have to rely on strangers in bars or on the Internet.
Like I would love to have all my drama be more discreet, but my best friends have dates, are out of town, would have to get a babysitter, are already exhausted etc etc. Mostly that doesn't bother me because I don't want to talk to most people most of the time, but when it's something big like this... It's really hard.
And when I'm going to want to escape versus when I'm going to need people is hard to predict. Different outcomes mean different social needs... Maybe I should start reserving my friends in advance just in case anyways.
@CptSuperlative@toot.cat so did people who voted for Biden, Trump, Obama, or Bush. The heavily armed police state with a disregard for human rights didn't just start in January.
Resistance can look like climate adaptation, resilient systems, local empowerment, supporting small and local business, reducing consumption and commodification.
Use your library. Attend local town halls. Bike and walk around town. Spend time at home with friends and family. Find and regularly visit a local tree or patch of grass or wetland or stream.
Yes public policy matters, but right now they're attacking on home economics. You can prepare by making yourself less dependent on imported goods, find the traditional & cheap & local & interpersonal pleasures. Play music, read books, do arts & crafts, invite your family & community in to do the same.
So I just added the #TellMePlease to my account because I welcome feedback, critique & whatever.
I have a lot of takes based on my individual privileged experience, and I've changed over time because one of my privileges is amazing people who have taught me better and taken time & energy to discuss & teach.
I intend to discuss & teach the same things I discuss here in the future, passing along that privilege. if it offends or is incorrect in either direct or nuanced ways, I want to hear it.
I can't guarantee I will agree, but I promise others have changed my mind and I promise to continue to change going forward.
If I'm disrespectful, I want to know not just do it by accident.
So #PleaseTellMe - I'm thinking of it as the proactive consent seeking
abolition now