abolition now@thesquirrelfish@sfba.social
One of the hardest things about being single in my 40s, for me, is that so many of my friends are coupled up or committed to their jobs and general social commitments that when I really need human conversation I have to rely on strangers in bars or on the Internet.
Like I would love to have all my drama be more discreet, but my best friends have dates, are out of town, would have to get a babysitter, are already exhausted etc etc. Mostly that doesn't bother me because I don't want to talk to most people most of the time, but when it's something big like this... It's really hard.
And when I'm going to want to escape versus when I'm going to need people is hard to predict. Different outcomes mean different social needs... Maybe I should start reserving my friends in advance just in case anyways.