Tyla (Combat Waifu Yuri Arc)@FinalGirl@blackqueer.life
When I write about my feelings here, I am observing my own emotions and commenting on them as a way to express them, understand them, and greet them where they are.
As with all my writing, this affords me an opportunity to experience myself openly, while also opening a door for other people to potentially see themselves in my experience and maybe not feel quite as alone in their own trauma.
Some people with whom I have a relationship can interact with those in deeper and more meaningful ways, using our shared experience as a bridge. But when someone I don’t know at all suggests unsolicited advice it changes my entire emotional context of the experience.
Because the frame becomes not one of me using my pain to quietly to reach out and help others see and experience the normalcy of their own pain. Rather it reframes me as someone asking for others to help me.
Against my will, and without my consent, it twists my vulnerable strength into weakness. Weakness than must be fixed. Weakness which someone else can use to show how much better they are by offering to fix it.