Brutkey

myrmepropagandist
@futurebird@sauropods.win

@quinn@social.circl.lu

I literally ran the numbers and realized I only met about 3 new people in my age range as friends every 5 years or so.

My husband and I had zero friends in common, did none of the same clubs or activities. We would have never met in NYC if not for the dating app.

Quinn Norton
@quinn@social.circl.lu

@futurebird@sauropods.win honestly, you make a lot of sense here. I think I stumbled into a short cut by being in activism circles. People who by definition are doing something social and compelling in common, but also weird and niche to most other people, make natural partners. And activists constantly sleep with each other, which also isn't a great idea, but it is a great shortcut to partnering 😂

myrmepropagandist
@futurebird@sauropods.win

@quinn@social.circl.lu

On my dating profile I added a line that said "maybe we can go protest the Republican national convention together" as a "date idea" and this resulted in fewer messages in my inbox but those that came were higher quality and shortly after I got a note from my now husband asking if I wanted to go to the AMNH and could we talk about Jane Jacobs maybe?

The protest suggestion made most of the "hey baby" type responses dry up.

Quinn Norton
@quinn@social.circl.lu

@futurebird@sauropods.win That Jane Jacobs move is clutch 😂

myrmepropagandist
@futurebird@sauropods.win

@quinn@social.circl.lu

He had me good with that one.

Quinn Norton
@quinn@social.circl.lu

@futurebird@sauropods.win perfect, no notes.

myrmepropagandist
@futurebird@sauropods.win

@quinn@social.circl.lu

I thought it was a bit forward when he wanted to show me his spreadsheets about the transportation times for different subway lines on just the second date... but I also said YES.

Being a demure woman of quality I did not show my spreadsheets to him about prime numbers until we were going steady.

(this sounds made up but is how it really went down)