That Frisian Girl-ish@thatfrisiangirlish@blahaj.zone
I don't know how to say this in an important way as it needs to be.
#Transition is an exploration.
You're venturing into unknown territory. You might have seen things from afar, and heard stories. But you, on your journey, have no idea where it will go, what you will encounter, and where you will end up.
No amount of preparation will be enough or adequate. There may be some things that are common enough that general advice can help you around. But mostly, you will find that your transition will be one of surprises. The constant is "expect the unexpected", so the best preparation may be an attitude of flexibility at what presents itself to you.
There is no way to be "sure enough" of anything. Professionals, your social circle, even you yourself will come up with arbitrary demands of you being sure about doing something. How could you be. These are all things that you've been denied. You're a kid raised on vinegar and mustard, and now you're wandering into an All You Can Eat icecream, sweets, chocolate, and cake buffet. Of course you can't be sure that this specific ice cream is what you want, you don't know how it tastes, or if something else will taste better! All you can trust is the longing when you encounter something. Have a taste, but don't feel compelled to stick with it. Have two or three tastes, because the strange taste might have to settle in your brain.
At some point, you will find a place in all this where you want to sit. Because that place is fine. Are you done yet? Who knows? Transition never ends, as long as you breathe and allow yourself to experience and grow. After all, we find those old people the coolest who try something new when society deems them "too old" for anything but lounging in front of the TV wearing beige. Statistically speaking, if you transition, you're already a total outlier. It makes no sense for you to conform, and it's a recipe for unhappiness if you try, because you're years behind the curve of "should be". So lean into that, and go your own way.