lina isidora@lina@tech.lgbt
tl;dr: i won't initiate small talk, sometimes leading to months-long periods of inactivity. if you send me a hru i will most probably infodump about it
yeah so i only ever text first when i have a genuine interest in something, that being (most often) some knowledge i suspect the other party has or (way less often) "oh hey i remembered about your existence, how have you been"
the latter is even rarer with fedi friends since i can just see how you're doing here, i probably won't ask unless i want specific details about something you posted about
the "how have you been" is an actual question so i will be very glad to see an actual reply instead of "eh its fine" (well unless nothing happened in the inactivity period)
if you ask me how have i been i will infodump about recently and in fact i will be very glad to do so