Eche ⚧
(211695-343)@echedellelr@soc.masfloss.net
to be exact, i think that most people who reply that they are monogamous, prolly are either:
repressed poly people (enforcing themselves to fit)
poly people in a current mono relationship
people who are clueless that having lovers and other kind of relationships (sexual, or platonic things) outside of their "relationship" is a type of poly
people who had a poly relationship which went bad (spoiler: people without experience)
people who are poly but they also feel comfy with just one partner and that is their current situation
Eche ⚧ (211695-343)@echedellelr@soc.masfloss.net
being poly is not about your current relationship(s), is about how you feel with the idea of loving or having several other kind of close relationships which exceed the scope of friendships.
is easy to think in the following: have you been in a situation in which you love two people? does not matter that is in a different way, it matters if you looked for them as some kind of relationship like a partner.
if so, you are poly, regardless of what you tell to yourself. and prolly you tried to force yourself to choose one, or "the one" (that is part of self-repression impossed by a mono society)