Brutkey

i. celeste aurora :v_tg: :v_nb: :v_genderfluid: [witchzard]
@ics@tau-ceti.space
i. celeste aurora :v_tg: :v_nb: :v_genderfluid: [witchzard]
@ics@tau-ceti.space

Why an I sorry? I am not sorry, it is just fact - 🙄🙄🙄🙄

i. celeste aurora :v_tg: :v_nb: :v_genderfluid: [witchzard]
@ics@tau-ceti.space

I am sorry but I seem to have nothing in common with cis het neurotypical native Germans - nothing at all.

There is no way to connect with them for me, no shared history, attribute, pain, or shared happiness - nothing! Nada! Zilch!

i. celeste aurora :v_tg: :v_nb: :v_genderfluid: [witchzard]
@ics@tau-ceti.space

I don't want to hijack that thread, that's why I didn't reply there, but my problem is like Philip J. Fry's: I feel like losing friends when such a series ends, whether TV or book series doesn't matter.

When I manage to get into a good story, I get "fully invested", i.e. I'm in the story, and the characters become friends, acquaintances- even the evil ones, even they become acquaintances of mine.

And when it ends...? I cry, as if some really good friends died.

I know it is part of me always looking forever for the right ("perfect") family, and I think to myself that I should've slowly learned the lesson-- but, ... it happens - again, and again.

😔😔🥺🥺 https://mas.to/@pete/114331779398772703

i. celeste aurora :v_tg: :v_nb: :v_genderfluid: [witchzard]
@ics@tau-ceti.space

Looking st the world atm, I'm not sure it is a good idea planning to live until the 132nd birthday 😞😞

i. celeste aurora :v_tg: :v_nb: :v_genderfluid: [witchzard]
@ics@tau-ceti.space

Wenn der Kulturstaatsminister jetzt das Gendern in seinem Ministerium und in allen geförderten Institutionen verbieten will, weil "... lehne jede bevormundende Spracherziehung ab...", dann heisst es nur, dass er weitehin dem generischen Maskulin den Vorrang gibt.

Ich würde mir wünschen, dass insbesondere alle Frauen und trans Personen von nun an das generische Feminin benutzen. Also statt "man macht das so", das "frau macht es so", usw. (kleines "f").
Statt "Arzt", einfach "Ärztin"
Handwerker -> Handwerkerin...

Please...?

i. celeste aurora :v_tg: :v_nb: :v_genderfluid: [witchzard]
@ics@tau-ceti.space
slight rant, mention of misgenderings, mh- / mh+, about identity

Imdat: "How many times is it ok to be misgendered or have our identity disrespected? After all, they are really old people?"Celeste: "I guess it depends on how much poison we can drink until we die, no?"
...

We (my wife and I) are invited to celebrate the birthday of an old friend of ours. It is his 80th birthday.

When I came out to him and his wife, who are both actually highly educated and quite smart people, it didn't go ... well? Without #MyAdoredDaughter and her husband at my side I am sure I would've completely crashed there and then.

No, they aren't some jerk-ass transphobes or such, but they behaved like some weird-ass liberals who started questioning ("Hormones? But they are so dangerous, are you really sure, have tou thought it through?") everything I said or did. At one point, my daughter couldn't hold back anymore and nearly screamed at them and tried "to hammer into their stupid heads what it means to have to live in a wrong body" (her words later on to me).

Since then they never made any effort to learn about me or trans people; the few times we exchanged messages they kept using the wrong pronouns and ... well, overall they never showed me that they tried to learn anything at all about me or us trans people.

My wife and my SIL kept insisting that they are old people and I should be lenient with them.

But that's the thing right? Lenient... you mean, keep drinking the poison until ... well, one day, when either I am resistant to it (but broken enough to build an apartment complex from the pieces) or until I just can't.

I know what I can expect at that party: misgenderings, questioning my identity, my decisions, my ... and then, I either walk out crying or desteoy the whole party (I know myself: if it gets too tough, I will literally destroy wverything around me).

I think it is best if I pass - whether this might be the last chance to see him or not - my MH (and everybody else's happiness at that party) is more important than keeping in touch with them.

Better for everybody this way - I know that!

i. celeste aurora :v_tg: :v_nb: :v_genderfluid: [witchzard]
@ics@tau-ceti.space

Of course it makes me proud to see that all our efforts for trying to keep our code easy, logically structured paid off.

Even the file names are (according to our newest team member) so logical. For example, the file containing the code for the left bar is called LeftBar.vue, the one for the list view in the middle ListView.vue and the one for the right bar, of course, RightBar.vue

i. celeste aurora :v_tg: :v_nb: :v_genderfluid: [witchzard]
@ics@tau-ceti.space

Me: "It makes me happy that you got into our code structure so quickly."

Our newest team member: "Yeah, it is really a beautiful code structure, so logical and so easy to understand. And the code itself is just beautiful."

Me: "🥹🥹"

i. celeste aurora :v_tg: :v_nb: :v_genderfluid: [witchzard]
@ics@tau-ceti.space

PSA - (to whom it concerns)
Please don't call me "a being". I am not "a being", I am a person.
My first name is "Imdat Celeste"; no, "Celeste" is not my middle name. I do not have a middle name.

Thank you for listening / watching our PSA

i. celeste aurora :v_tg: :v_nb: :v_genderfluid: [witchzard]
@ics@tau-ceti.space

I hate it when I have to "lecture" one of my team members.

But ... this brilliant guy ... absolutely amazing, ... but always making things so complicated ... sigh!

Yes, yes, he is young and inexperienced and thus still at the lower-left of the experience v. code-complexity curve, and so brilliant with so much potential...

No worries, we are good - he is just too eager to use to much complexity

A graph depicts the relationship between code complexity and years of programming experience. It shows complexity rising steeply, peaking with the use of design patterns, interfaces, and abstractions, before declining to "super simple code" with increased experience. The graph suggests that initial simplicity gives way to greater complexity before eventually simplifying again with expertise.